hi ive been to Adam a few times a been seeing hookers for a while now but I have this problem that I cant cum during sex no matter what I try.
I have tried different positions and different condoms. I went to a sex therapist for advice but still no good.

The only thing that I can think of now is that I blame porn as I used to watch a lot of porn and masturbate loads so I may have got used to that and now real sex with a vagina don't work. I don't know whats going on or how I could sort it out.

I can cum when I wank and I can get hard.

Does any one else have this problem? can any one else relate to that and how can I fix it.

Have you tried going for longer sessions with girls you know well or with some of the known stars? I can think of a few who would make it a mission. Maybe that wouldn't help though. A longer session might help you relax and get your head in the right place.

The only other advice I could give is to try not to get worked up about it, this will surely make it worse.
Have a nice time with the girls and if it happens, see it as a bonus rather than a goal. Hard I know, but it might take the pressure off enough to let it happen naturally.

This is an interesting topic that comes up now and again. I have problems cumming within a satisfactory time period. I'd love to just move into doggy, get that 'feeling' and then cum within a few minutes. But it doesn't happen most of the time. There are reasons for this;

1) - self esteem issues, i.e. body image, depression etc
2) - anxiety, due to real-life problems
3) - medical conditions
4) - dick size versus pussy size
5) - not clicking with the lady

These are just a few reasons that I've come up with. A lot of the above applies to me unfortunately. How do I deal with it? I visit those that I click with. This gives me a better chance of being relaxed, which helps with anxiety of course. Sometimes my mind wanders.. and before I know it I've lost my full erection.. and this is WITH viagra!

Max spoke to me about this issue. I've cum with her 75% of the time I've been with her, but the times I haven't cum have been frustrating, especially when I consider the things she was doing to me at the time!! :) She advised me to get drunk before visiting a lady, so I had a few vodkas and visited Elodie and had a great time, with me 'on the edge' and knowing that I was going to cum during the session, right from the get-go. This allowed me to relax and just concentrate on enjoying myself.

Also, a lot of the ladies have had children, even those who are pretty young. When I slide in to their moist mound, half the time I can't actually feel a thing! I'm below average size when it comes to dick size, but even so, the lack of feeling is alarming.. and before I know it I'm suffering anxiety.

Well thanks for them ideas i dont really get much anixety.
For me i do think its down to porn and masturbation. cos some one told me if i dont wank or watch porn for 90 days straight then it should help more. I tryed and i couldnt make it past 28 days.

The solution to problems like this can be simple, if frustrating. Dont watch porn and dont fap.Before my last trip I had endured 200 days without "PMO" (Porn, Masturbation, Orgasm).

What's wrong is you've programmed you're brain to be attracted only to porn. You need a reboot. There's a website, yourbrainonporn, thats really useful.

I know this sounds all new age medicine and crap but for me 200 days without porn sent me from not feeling anything at all when together with a girl to having 8 sessions in 3 days during my last trip.

So my recommendation is try at least 90 days like you said. Dont let yourself fail, see it as a test of character and willpower. And if it doesnt help, so what? You'll survive 3 months without porn :)

That's a hell of long time to not ejaculate. Did you suffer from premature ejaculation after going that long?

Well i did empty in my sleep once every few weeks, so it's not like I was full to bursting :P Yeah my first time after arriving in Amsterdam was kinda quick (~5 min), but after that it was cool. It was complete night and day compared to before the 200 days, so it definitely worked for me

Ok, I'm not going to watch porn, and try to hold back from any masturbation, until my next trip in a few months.

Get rid of the viagra as well davey its another killer if you really do the whole no porn and masterbation for 90 days then you shouldnt need it. After that.

same problem , and yeah you have diagnose it correctly , its masturbation (though i think its only masturbation and not porn). basically when you masturbate a lot your penis get used to your tight hand , so in his point of view every other vagina comparing to your hand will be loose , especially in our case since its a hooker vagina.
and it dosent have to do with sexual ability , i am younger than most of the forum members and i can get a boner almost whenever i want but 80% i cant cum during sex .
however i have noticed that the times when i came during sex usually its the same way : long time fucking in doggy style .. because i noticed that in missionary position usually i get physically tired before cuming , when the girl is on top usually she gets tired and ask to change position before i cum , but in doggy style both me and the girl will feel comfortable for long time fucking , which sometimes leads to ejaculation .
usually if i cant cum then plan B for me is to to ask the girl to lie down next to me and give me a handjob while i am kissing her , and this always works because her hands is going to feel familiar for the penis.

Not exactly sure what you are saying here, but Viagara has no effect on desire or sensitivity. Physical effect that is. There might be a placebo effect for some.

What im trying to say is that basically overall Viagra is a bad thing for you and it don't really help things when it comes to sex and you are better of without it if possible.
Yes it will help you get hard but it wont help you cum. and research shows your better off without it.
read The New Male Sexuality

http://www.amazon.com/The-Male-Sexualit ... 0553380427

if you don't believe me.

I used to have this problem.

Abstaining from porn will usually help because it re-sensitizes your libido and your body. Stopping masturbating may or may not be helpful because one effective solution is to train yourself to cum in conditions resembling actual physical sex. That means positioning your body in certain ways and performing certain movements as if you are actually having physical sex with a woman.

You can, for example, try jerking off more softly and slowly and with less pressure from the hand, or doing it while wearing a condom or two. You also abstain from looking at visual stimuli and concentrate on cumming based only on the tactile sensations.

Rocco Siffredi has a trick where he keeps a repertoire of fantasies in his mind, images that he conjures when he wishes to ejaculate while performing with a woman. Apparently this allows him to cum almost on cue within 15 seconds.

It's not a question of believing you it's simply disagreement. Obviously taking meds one doesn't need is not recommended. But for millions of men with erection problems that are real and often from organic rather than psychological causes, Viagra and Cialis and others have restored happiness and saved marriages. Let's not try to shame men who take proactive steps that don't happen to fit someone elses sexual ideology.

Its not a case of trying to shame any one don't take it that way.
It is a case of just trying to help some people and give advice and look at a few facts about things to help some one have better sex.
for a lot of people Viagra helps them maintain an erection so if that's what you want then go ahead and use it.
If your looking for orgasms then some times Viagra can cause problems

Viagra answered the prayers of millions of men who couldn’t get it up. But while those meds may give you an erection, about two-thirds of men on ED drugs are still suffering because they can’t finish the job, according to a study from Cornell University.

Sixty-five percent of men on ED meds reported reduced pleasure during orgasm, and 58 percent said they had ejaculation problems, ranging from premature ejaculation to an inability to ejaculate altogether.

There is yet no reliable medication for delayed ejaculation. PDE5 inhibitors such as Viagra have little effect.[10] In fact, Viagra has a delaying effect on ejaculation, possibly through additional effect in the brain or decrease of sensitivity in the head of the penis

That is simply why I personally would not use Viagra as Im aiming for better sex. I hope this helps some one.
But if you just want to have an erection then go ahead and use it.

Down, you mean well, but you're missing the point when it comes to Viagra usage. Viagra helps maintain an erection. If it has side effects that include delayed ejaculation then so be it. But the point is, people only use Viagra because they need to, due to not being able to keep a stiffy. So, advising people not to use Viagra means that they won't be able to have sex. No erection = no penetrative sex = no chance whatsoever of ejaculation.. regardless of time ;)


p.s. there may be some people who use it casually, when there is no real medical need to do so, just so they can have multiple sessions.. but that's another matter.

I understand some people may not be able to get a stiffy with out it
I would suggest to them people try doing 90 days nofap in hard mode then you should see some results then theres no need for viagra, thats the goal any way.
Im trying the 90 day no fap. its the hardest challenge ive had i feel like such a sex addict my brain must be mashed and i wish that it could be back to normal. ive just got to keep trying and keep it up u hear alot of positve things about this i hope that I can rebalance my brain.

This seems to mostly be a trendy theory, a so called meme without scientific credibility...

http://slacktory.com/2012/10/reddits-no ... seriously/

Before your last trip you went 200 days without 'release'?! Did the airline make an excessive weight charge for your ball sack? LOL!

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I for one is eternally grateful for randomly having stumbled upon this trendy theory.
It really makes sense if you think of it: Imagine a virgin dude that has fapped on average maybe once a day to porn for 10 years. His brain is wired to be aroused by porn, and porn only. The touch, smell or feel of a woman has nothing to do with arousal according to this brain. So when a naked woman kisses him and runs his hands all over him, his brain doesnt send the signals it should. Nothing happens.

I'm not saying this happens for everyone who watches alot of porn, or even most of them.
But it is the case for some, and for many of then No Fap works.

I just got back from Amsterdam, had 10 sessions over 3 days, no problems other than some soreness :P One year ago I felt absolutely nothing when together with a girl. My problems were never with ejaculation, but with getting a reaction at all.

Wow, I'm in a sharing mood aren't I, better get back to the trip report!