Nice topic... I’ll be long but i'm happy to contribute with my stories because i ONLY visit regulars since 3-4 years now...

Controlling emotions when visiting a regular? It is a game, until it last. Either you think like someone advised above or you take the risk to invest on a girl and see what you get on return.

Foreground on myself... I'm 42yo, married with children. Thanks to mother nature i am also a good looking man, I like to flirt, and i have occasions to have sex in “non paying” situations. It happened only once, and I realize it was not was i wanted....
Window girls are somehow a sort of parallel world, next to a real life. Girls arrive a stays a few years. Something that is available as a service. But can be more than this. The escorts are not my thing. I need to see the girl first..... and possibly establish a long relationship (in terms of visits) where both can take advantages…

Going with regulars is a game that to me always gave back good things....
I started in 2008 in amsterdam, and then as belgian, i'm testing the local product since 3 years...

After i saw Amsterdam changing and after my favorites all left, i changed target to Antwerp and i have to admit I got the best ROI... :-D

After a couple of visit, if I see that the girl is reacting and funny (briefly…. If she worth the investment of time and money…), I ask the telephone number. I like to know if she is there or not when I go, and also because when you call the regular that you are almost there she does a step back… and wait for you… ☺
Also, as sometimes I go once a week or two, sometimes I don’t go for a month or more, I prefer to have a little contact, to know that she is still there, and doing fine.

Then, there is a point visiting a regular when she tells you (for a reason or another) “…you are a special client” or even better… “…you are my special one, you are different…”.

There it start the game… either it gives good results or it stops immediately.

What I make clear with a girl that I feel I will visit for long time, is that I have a life, so I don’t need her to tell me that she miss me or shit like this to make me come back. I respect her choice to do this job, and if really she likes me, I will give her the occasion to show it.

But… It is there that you enter the private life of the girl (and they enter yours), and if she is not ready to it, the nice words told in the room expires. The curve that was going up, immediately became flat… then goes down…

But so far, it happens only twice, then I had 2 nice stories ended (nicely…) when the girls went back home, and one ongoing…

This one unfortunately is the best so far. And we still haven’t got a meeting outside like in apartment or night out. They will come, I guess, as she will stay here for another year at least. I said ‘unfortunatelly’ because I finally said myself that the day she’ll quit, I will also stop with hookers. It will be difficult to have the same luck I had to discover this girl…

The way it started it was immediately hot… I remember it was a very unexpected result for a first session with a girl, and she was showing a real enjoyment of it. She almost kissed me with the tongue at the end…
I told her on the door before leaving: ‘thank you very much’ and she immediately told me ‘no, I thank you. I hope to see you soon.’

Then I told her immediately: “Ok, gimme your telephone number, but I’m a family man, so no bullshit please…’ she smiled… and everything started… the exchange of messages since the begin was the opening to this story we are living… ☺

As she says, when a girl decides to view a client outside the room, she knows what is doing.

I’m talking not only of sex, but also spending a night out in another town, and so on… Of course, it always happens a few times during the relationship. Only in special occasion when my wife travels and the kids are with the grandpas… ☺

Although I have many videos and pictures of my sessions, the best memories are sometimes the things lived with these girls… I mean the real feeling that you lived in a certain moment.

Here’s some for those interested… sorry for the long post. ☺

Once I used to visit one at the end of the day or at the very begin. If it was the very begin it was starting with a coffe and croissant “chez paul” in Antwerp… then once I had the possibility to rent a nice apartment for one night. So I told her “ok, so if I am so special will you accept to see me in an apartment here in Antwerp? I’ll pay you 200 euros as usual, I will pick you up in saint paul square (behind the RLD in Antwerp) and we will go to an apartment that we rent now with booking. I will cook for you, and we will spend some time together. When you want to come back, I drive you home (I knew the road where she lived, not the exact door, but the road yes… the apartment was not far)

She was wondering why ‘not there in the room as usual’, and i told her... “Look (showing her the page of booking on the phone) It is a very nice apartment, it is not the same room i see since almost one year, it has a bathtub where we will drink champagne and smoke weed before eating something that you will choose and i will cook for you. If you enjoy having sex with me here, how can it be there? Is that enough? Her eyes were so beautiful when she was telling me "yes, let's do it"

It was a memorable evening. We started in the bath of course without penetration, but I let you imagine what can happen with a hotty in a large bathtub… then I show her the dress I bought. Nothing for a sexual deviation, just a present. Then we had food and drinks, and we made it another 3 times after dinner. On the sofa, in the bed, again on the sofa…
each pause we were talking and smoking… it was a total “quality time”.

I drove her home at almost 2.30 in the morning. Of course, we did it the day before her day off. “Goodnight” I said. She looked at me with an expression that I will never forget and told me “ah… and then I’m back to skipperstraat…” she kissed me and she said. “Thanks” I still hear her voice…. I also had the pleasure to spend an afternoon and a night in a spa/hotel in holland with a “bongo” package that I bought (I only offered her some extra treatment not included in the package). She was going back to holidays and we organize things in a way that she was leaving the Sunday evening. I picked her up in Antwerp, and drove back to the airport the day after. Another memorable time…

Of course between these special occasions I was visiting her also in her room.
The ‘deal’ was that if I was going often I was paying less. For instance, once I had the occasion to go there twice in a week, and I paid only 250 for both session of almost an hour each. Then I didn’t go for 6 weeks…

She left Antwerp before this summer. For our last session I rented another nice suite outside Antwerp… ☺ at the end of the evening, as it was again before her day off, and both we were stoned and drunk, we decided to sleep there. The following day I drove her back to Antwerp and after another nice goodbye (no sex, just a chat in the car…) I continued to Brussel.

After about ten km, already on the highway…. I realized that I didn’t pay her. I called her, and told her ‘didn’t we forget something?’ after a few seconds she started to laugh and told me that the fact that she also forgot it was not a good sign…

She sent me an email last week, telling me that she finally open her own business of hairdresser and she might come to Paris this april…. I don’t know if I will go. First because it will impact the budget I allocate for these things that is now focused on the new girl. Second, because I think it has been nice because it was as it was. If I think to see her now in paris, I don’t have a motivation that will inspire me to build a story to cover the night out…

I could continue with other stories, but is now late….

To end, I think there are different ways to interact with these girls. Probably for someone reading my post I might appear crazy, or insane. But to tell you, they help me in living better the ordinary life. They allow me to express my ‘hidden side’. Of course they need all my respect.
If you decide to try go a bit further than the simple suck and fuck in the room, always remember what they are there for and where they come from.

It should be interesting now to know what are you talking about when you are visiting your regulars…

goodnight!

Now i'm not in my best moment with the RLD as I have had a problem with one of the regular girls I go to. I don't know what really happened -I don't think I have done anything bad-, she didn't elaborate but blocked me literally in every aspect, so I'm feeling bitter about the whole thing.

Anyway, I recently have discovered the Facebook accounts of two of my absolute favorites (I shall say this only once: just in case DO NOT ASK ME WHO THEY ARE. I WILL NEVER TELL). One knows, the other doesn't.

With one of them, my relationship seems nice but I have seen her other side and that always makes me focus on the sex.

With the other, the relationship is nice as she has a real positive attitude. She establishes boundaries but does so in a way I could never be bothered or compelled to ask for more. I don't see her as much as I would like to but I try and make the most of every encounter. I like that she's older than me (I'm 36). Also she offered to mediate with the girl I had the problem with as they are friends. I told her not to but I think she just went ahead...

I'm glad there's a strong enough connection between them and me business-wise so I feel my money is well-spent.

If I stopped going to the RLD, I'll miss them but I don't think we'd ever become friends nor even had the slightest contact. But if I could just know if they are ok, at any time, that'd be enough for me.

Yeah, you know it's kind of a strange thing that we mongerers do.

I mean, we're doing very intimate things with people, and the natural instinct is to feel close to that person. It's weird when I think about it because I've had very intense, intimate moments and really opened up with some of these girls and if I'm honest, I don't actually know these people at all. I mean, I don't even know their real names. Literally the most basic information you can have about a person.

I think you have to be a little bit callous when it comes to this stuff. I mean, I like my regular girls, I wish nothing but the best for them, and I hope nothing bad happens to them, but I have to hold them at arm's length. You know, if something happens, it happens, nothing I can do about it, and it's not really my problem. I'm not their boyfriend or their family, I'm not a close friend, I'm their customer, an acquaintance at best. It's business. Perhaps there's a little pleasure mixed in there too, but it's still business.

I would feel bad to hear that something had happened to one of my regulars, and I would feel bad for them, but honestly, I don't know how much I'd care. I don't think it'd feel much different from a restaurant I like closing. Shame it's gone, and I'll miss it, but it's not the end of the world.

I'm a pretty nice, caring guy in general, and I'd be lying if I said it didn't bother me at all to have to think this way, but I have to protect myself. I can't make connections with people who frankly very likely will end up hurting me at some point if I do. You know, it's like breaking up. Each time you have a break up, it takes a little piece of you. That shit ain't free. I can't put myself in a vulnerable position like that as much as it may run contrary to my nature.

I don't think there's anything wrong with missing your favourite girls, especially when they leave the RLD for good.



I think it helps if you concentrate on being friendly within realistic boundaries, recognising that the girl has a private life and in most cases developing a friendship outside the kamer isn't possible. I think a lot of the girls appreciate it when someone is nice to them, takes an interest in their life (up to a point, without asking too many personal questions), and obviously cares about them, rather than just treating them purely as a sex object. As long as you don't cross the line of being "creepy and stalkerish", or make them feel uncomfortable by declaring your undying love for them on your second visit, I think it makes the work much more pleasant for the girl. So maybe you won't get to be best pals, but you can certainly make their day a bit nicer.



If you have some nice things that you want to say to your favourite window girl, but you never seem to find the right moment or it makes you feel awkward, write out a little note in a greetings card for her. If it's something short and complementary and lets them know you think they are special, it will probably be appreciated. Just don't write out an essay that makes you look like a crazy psycho that's going to follow them home. I find this is a nice way of saying the kind of things that one day you will wish you said but didn't. I try and take the attitude that any time I see a particular girl could be the last, as you don't always get any warning that a girl will retire. On the other hand, sometimes you find yourself staring in amazement at a familiar face from the past...

Maintaining distance is difficult because you are fighting a couple built-in mechanisms nature has created to optimize our chances for genetic survival. One is that as part of orgasm your brain chemistry gets dosed with agents that are going to encourage bonding. Second is that if you've had "real" relationships the matrix of behaviors around those relationships have become somewhat uniquely related to orgasm (most of your relationships (work, school, etc.) are not), and so when you have an orgasm with a provider it's a strong associative cue to trigger those same behaviors.

So don't feel bad about commercial sex being confusing and/or hard to keep at a distance. That's just the way it's going to be for some folks, and it's actually a sign of your ability for "normal" functioning...i.e. it's in a way a sign of mental health.

Hi Dolf

You still pop up in my mind once in a while.
I am sorry i had to leave in 2006 without giving a sign.
I remember you Always told me that you had a dream like that.
If your ever in the area here dont be afraid to give me a call.

xxx Sabrina

If this is a fake account - that's really quite cruel.

If not, amazing.

It is NOT a fake account.

Weasel

I can corroborate Weasel. That's the real Sabrina.

"If not, amazing."
And, yes, that's Sabrina.

the dogs

Think of it like this: The only reason they are even talking to you is because you're paying them.

The best way to avoid emotional ties is the butterfly strategy. When you start to feel strongly for one girl or you find that you have been to her 3 times in a row and want to go again, force yourself to visit someone else.