Find a woman with a great pair of tits that "feel like a bag of sand."

That's how I imagine Polish Anna's big fake jugs to feel.

MikeDeHavilland, you are right in many of the things you write. But I don't think that I see prostitutes much as objects has much to do with it.

I am considering the http://www.ritter11.de/ Tiffany brothel in Berlin which seems really newbie friendly. Unfortunately They have remade their homepage, before there was information in English and a lot of newbie information.

But it feels a bit hopeless right now to be honest. I wonder how I'm going to fix this.

I can't see them as objects and always end up sitting around chatting with them. Sex-wise you need to think of it as masturbation but where the porn model is alive and hopefully doing the work. They've seen it all and don't care about your performance as long as it's not too robust.

tw25rw, with robust, do you mean violent?

Maybe I should try an escort service.. Just wondering what I should say to them beforehand. Maybe that I need a girl that is kind and understanding to someone who can have performance problems.

Is Artemis, the FKK, that intimidating by the way?

Monarch,
I would still stand by what I have written previously.

But if you wish to take the prostitution line (and I've guessed you are from UK) would it not be an idea to try first in UK, by using an escort?

Thus you can spend some non sexual time with her, to relax yourself first, in the comfort of a hotel I guess (or her place) wihtout the pressures associated with a sex club (I presume populated by people with a lot of confidence/familiarity with the industry) or even the issue of a foreign language to contend with. It would also save on other costs such as flights.
Good luck whatever.

Thanks danny69 but I live in Sweden where it is illegal to buy sex.

Sorry - it's your written English; it is too good!
I must admit your link to that German place was very interesting.

brah, at this time you might want to cut off the advice. Too much input can overload the circuits. Make you overthink when you should be relaxing.

Except for two things - ;D ;D ;D

1) if you choose the blue steel route, use real Viagra (50mg, or 100 mg if you're refrigerator-sized) rather than Kamagra - it'll do a much better job. Guaranteed.

2) Do bring your own condom. Most of the ladies buy the cheapest, thickest slab of latex they can find. Do some research, spend the extra money and buy something that is, ahem, more suited to a man's pleasure (okay, thinner, thinner, thinner).

Good luck brah - remember, it's only a few dumb-ass brain cells that are standing between you and what is genetically-engineered to be the finest human experience to be had.

I can somewhat relate to you.. although I've had sex with one girl before coming to Amsterdam. (You can read my report if you'd like by doing a search under my name.)

You can try drinking before approaching the window girls (although I heard some won't take drunk guys.) Try to drink enough to be impaired but not enough to be drunk.

Do a search under the Device for girls who have recently gotten good reviews. Jot down their locations and descriptions. Find these girls in the RLD and go for the one you're most attracted to.

Other members may have different opinions about this but I'd be honest with her and tell her you're a virgin or inexperienced in your negotiations.. go for at least a 100E 30 minute session for your first time (more if it's offered.) If she responds with a "aww, you're so sweet" type of vibe, go for her! If she seems indifferent or her mood changes after you tell her your status, you'd want to leave.

Good luck and have fun!

Viagra does a better job than Kamagra? Explain how, as they both contain the same active ingredients (as far as I'm aware).

Also, do any ladies allow own condom usage? Not in the Wallen I don't think. The ladies use the "thickest slab of latex they can find" for one reason.. safety. Thin condoms break easier, as well as the fact your own condoms aren't guaranteed to be 100% safe - even if sealed. How do they know the punter isn't wierd and hasn't used a needle to pierce the condom wrapper to make an undetectable hole in the condom for his "love lotion" to escape through and enter the woman's chuff?

To the OP. All these questions and answers must be making things worse. Just do yourself a favour and get on with it, whatever it is you have planned. Trial and error is a good thing. And if all else fails, go to the sex shop and buy a vibrating vagina and a bottle of lube and fuck that instead ;)

"vibrating vagina and a bottle of lube and fuck that instead"

Have tried, even though it didn't vibrate ;-)